You made way too many assumptions based on an internet communication about my attitude, my marriage, and my communications with my partner. You need to be careful about that. If you have actually read and made the connection between that post and some of my other posts I think you will find that I do take responsibility and have understood and accepted how important sex is to my H. In fact, our sex life is very active and he has expressed tremendous satisfaction and happiness with our marriage. I don't think I deserved what you wrote. I do not need to be convinced of your view of marriage any more than I need to accept Ceberon's. It's my H's and my view of marriage that matters to my situation. We both agree that physical intimacy is not an obligation. The fact that he and I are in agreement on this point makes it that much easier for me to truly want to meet his needs. I know my husband well enough to know that if he thought I was having sex out of sense of obligation, then he wouldn't be too happy about it. My willingness to meet my husband's needs comes from my love and concern for my spouse. You have claimed in one of your other posts to want to see the other side and that you take other's perspectives. I don't see evidence of it in the post you made to me. Instead you seem to be intent on trying to convince me of your point of view regarding marital obligations regarding sex. It is your husband you must convince of that viewpoint, not me.
