Have you talked to your wife's sister's H about it in much detail. Can he give you any pointers. Would he get his W to talk to yours?

Some women do get very badly affected by the menopause and so drawing lines and threatening ultimatums might not help. Some women find it very hard to seek medical help and the changes in their bodies frighten them. Is your W getting any sort of HRT treatment?

Saffie

Saffie
me 46
H 46
M in 1986
D20,D18,S16,D13
H's A 01/05 to 07/06
H recommitted to M 07/06
renewed vows 09/06
Going from strength to strength