A question: When does that timeline start? I mean, my W has been saying I don't want you in my life since April, 8 months.
Your guess is as good as mine, but the timeline for healing from a failed marriage starts in my mind when you have accepted that it is indeed a failed marriage (that is, over), and you are moving on so to speak. Not from the bomb.
Originally Posted By: Heimlich
I've been detached in the sense of ready to move on while still being open to reconciling for a little over a month.
Ready to move on? Accepted that you must and will move on? Open to reconcile or hoping to reconcile?
Originally Posted By: Heimlich
8 months without any affection has been, for me, an eternity after 16 years of it.
This is a different issue. It's a personal decision we must each make, but frankly, you can go get affection, intimacy, compassion, sex, whatever you want, regardless of whether the healing timeline has started. And regardless of whether you or moving on. That's just a personal question of if it is ok for you.
Just my 2 cents, Nomo
M 39 W 39 M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs S7 D4 Bomb 5-8-05 W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22 DB 4-10 S 6-11 No more C Link
