Just one more thing. Have you considered he is doing this unconsciously out of revenge as he might blame you that he feels bored?
So whatever you do to control him now will only worsen the situation. Let him be and just state your boundaries.
No, I don't get that it's revenge. He said that he knows that I can't get a job for him, that I can't make him not be bored. Everyone here was on the right track the other day with the self-validation issues and feeling like he doesn't contribute. I told him that I could fill his head with all kinds of fluff, but it wouldn't do any good because HE has to feel it.
I don't even know what my boundaries are to tell him.
My husband is like a big kid. Control for him is almost like a comfort zone (military parents, former military himself)...I think he likes to have that structure and control when he feels uncomfortable. He knows that ultimately it is up to him not to keep contacting other women and not signing up on these sites, that I can't control all of it. His response is to just avoid it, ignore it.
