CVA - Moving On

[Puddle]

Hey CVA,

Less of this:

meaning she doesnt want to get involved w/ me (married, have a lot to work out personally)...smart woman.

and more of this:

one thing I have learned is that there is no reason to worry about it.

and this:

seems to have a good head on her shoulders (nice shoulders!)

Take care.

[Not Much Left]

I think I stated that very poorly. I meant she is smart for recognizing that someone in my position is probably fragile in terms of relationships and doesnt want to jump into something where someone could / would get hurt...rebound issue, get back together w/ W, whatever...she has been through this and recognizes the issues.

Thanks for the comments, I definitely will be focusing on the latter though!

Thanks again.

[Not Much Left]

About to walk into C with W...nervous, anxious, hoping and praying it goes well

[Heimlich]

Stay cool. Don't push. Relax. Deep, deep breaths. (Now, imagine the WC -- wife's clone -- taking deep, deep breaths. Preferably while wearing something clingy, slightly opaque, and low cut.)

[L21959]

CVA --

How did it go?

L2

[Not Much Left]

Weirdly calm and positive???

Basically we *now* have the same desires and views on discipline and all matters re: the kids. The C asked W if she had seen changes regarding my patience with the kids .... "Yes" so the C basically said we are like animals, we need a rewarsd for doing things right, so why don't you tell CVA that u appreciate what he is doing...so she did.

I admitted to W that I had moved more her direction on discipline and trying to have patience as it is obviously better than the opposite but that it had taken me a while to get there.

Anyway, all-in-all, it was positve I guess but not hopeful it will do anything other than reinforce her view that everything will be great. I will not always be there to help with the kids as I have been doing and I suspect the C will point that out shortly.

C

[chicki]

This good CVA!

Sounds like your C is a keeper?

It took you a while to get "there"..I know it took me awhile to put a stop to H's sex/cake eating ways!!!

Take care....your doing wonderfuly
C

[Nomopo]

That great. If D is a foregone conclusion, wouldn't you prefer things be "great"? I doubt she expects you to cater to her every whim. But she probably would prefer you be friendly. That will be possible, for you too, with time.

[Not Much Left]

Update
No go on new friend, she's going thru a recent breakup and thinks we both ar not on solid ground, is totally freaked out about $s and can't focus on a new boytoy like me! Oh well friends first and I am sure with my charms she will not be able to restrain herself for too long!!!
C

[ItsKat]

No worries, C. Things will happen for you in that area when the time is right.

Can I share something with you though? I know people have different opinions about this on the board, but I would like to share a bit of my personal experience. It is just over a month ago that I realized that I was completely done with my H. No hoping for him to change his mind and come back. My opinion of him is very low. My feelings for him are dead. One of the things that I was really glad about when I realized this, was that there was no other person for me in the picture. I knew that I was done with my H because I was done with my H, and not because there was someone else to move on to. I had nothing to feel guilty about and I knew that there was no one else clouding my view of my H.

I don't see that you are in the same place with your W that I am with my H. I am not saying that you can't date if you want to, that is your own decision. But I guess I just wanted to share my own experience. I am really glad that things worked out for me in the order that they did.