I have a success story that will touch you all. It's my own parents. 22 years ago at the age of 51, my Dad announced that he was leaving after 30 years of marriage. There was an OW and also a drinking problem involved. My mother took the news harder than anyone I've ever seen. I remember picking her up off the floor and staying at the house for fear of what she might do to herself. It was horrible!
My mother didn't have the help of DBers, she just seemed to figure it all out on her own. She first learned how to handle the house and finances, she got a legal seperation, she lost a ton of weight and eventually she started dating.
My Dad's R with the OW broke up and he returned home. My Mom asked him to go to C. He agreed and then once he was home stopped going. The reconciliation was too soon, the drinking hadn't stopped and they broke up again.
This time my Mom sold the house, bought her own place with her 1/2 of the money and filed for D.
To make a long story short, Dad returned again and this time meet all her requirements. He moved into her place and they began to rebuild. Fifteen years ago, the grandkids were teasing them so much about living in sin that they decided to remarry. My husband and I stood up for them.
Now here's the touching part. Not long after they remarried my Dad was diagnosed for a long term terminal illness. My Mom never questioned the committment that she made to him. She has cared for him and loved him as we would hope someone would care for us. Dad recently was placed in a nursing home to give Mom the rest she needs. But she won't rest. Mom is by his side every day, feeding him and dressing him and loving him. My mother is 72 years old and should be an example to all of us what Love really is!
State Flower
"It's not what happens to you, it's what you make of it." Zig Ziglar
