Update. I told the b14 that if mom called I was busy. She did last eve and asked if I were there but he replied as I asked, and said he is busy playing the piano, ( i bought one and just started learning as part of my 180). She also learned the b14 was now getting guitar lessons (180 move) and the b9 drum lessons (again180). She asked if we had plans on the weekend and he said yes, lots, and went through 7 activities we have planned (one activity was church another 180). He asked if she would join us in a couple but she politely declined. He also told her he went to the guidance counselor again at school about this whole thing. She asked what they talked about but he told her it didnt matter, she wouldnt do anything about it. BTW, my son told me about this after he got done with mom on the phone and I listened intently. I did not tell him she called earlier, I try to keep it away from him, but he is hurting and wants to talk.
I dont know if this means a thing or not, but I sure miss my WAS. I am a bit worried, that she cannot change her mind about me. She is asian, we eloped 15 yrs ago against her moms wishes and told her mom she was leaving me. Were now separated headed for the big D. How could she now flip flop back and say she is coming back to me?. I suppose the same way she originally went against her mom to marry me? This sucks.
