I guess she didn't want to work on us, she just wanted me to pay her bills and when I didn't she found light at the end of the tunnel to pay her bills by doing a separation of marital property. My lawyer told me if I wanted this over all I had to do is quit giving her money. Looks like he knows what he is talking about.
I don't know about you, but I always wanted to believe the best in my STBXW and found it hard whenever the unpleasant reality of who she now is was proved beyond a doubt. Sadly, it is not an uncommon occurrence. Like me, perhaps your sitch is winding down.