Surprised to see you were still on as of 5 min ago. Just got home from visiting some friends at the bowling alley, I used to bowl in the league there on Thurs. The last time I was there was the night before I went to the hospital. Told everyone of my surgery. A few of the women that bowl there I found out are going through D's also. Told them I'm not giving up on W. One might be interested in seeing each other when our sitch's work out, don't think I'll be ready for that for quite a while, but nice to know someone is interested. Everyone commented I looked skinny, imagine that I am down to 207lbs and still want to lose some more.
I'm going to sign up for coaching also, the only problem I have is W didn't make payments on credit cards in my name for a while before she left(she took care of paying bills and hid that). I have paid one off and two others are in collections. I also found out on the web relationship Rich. It's a 5day intensive training seminar. Costs $1700 plus room, but sounds like it might be good, Cheaper than paying atty's for D. It's based on Dr Phil's Therapy. Don't know if he's affiliated with it or not.
The angels I bred were called jet black super veils. I was the only one who had them in my area. They weren't prolific spawners. It took about two years before they would have spawns of 300 to 400 eggs. Only about 100 to 150 before that. about 15 yrs ago there was a virus that was killing angel fish, Mine were isolated, didn't have any outside fish. I made the mistake of buying a pair of gold pearl scale veils i noticed getting ready to spawn at a pet store. They had the virus and wiped me out.
When we were going to MC, I didn't understand what she (MC) was trying to get us to do. Since reading DB and DR i see it know. We went on vaca together, W was going to move back home after, while at hotel night before coming home she got a text or voice mail and went cold as ice. From reading I see it was probably from OM. They must have had an argument about her going away with me. She was going to put 2 weeks notice in to quit when we returned but changed her mind. She said she wasn't getting anything out of MC session as MC would just talk most of the time.
MC referred her to another C for MLC. W had said in a session she didn't know what was wrong with her, she didn't know what she wanted, who she was, had any outside interests or hobbies. I don't think W ever saw her C. I don't Know if W would go to MC now or not. I would love to go to Retrouvaille or Relationship Rich. W said we grew apart, when we went on vaca, she was looking to fall in love again, she said it didn't happen and decided she wanted a D.
I've spent a lot of time in thinking about my part in us drifting apart. With the hours of her job and no time for me I withdrew. which caused her to withdrawal, so I did more ...I now see I should have approached her about it. Could have had bought TV to put in BR so when she went to bed at about 8 at latest, i could have gone with her and watched TV there, and been with her.I think i have done a lot of soul searching and if given the chance work to make our M better than it ever was. I see things i could have done differently. I think she is afraid to try to work on it because she is afraid i can't make the changes in myself and we'll be right back where we were 6mos ago. I know in my heart it wouldn't happen.
Mike
M 51 W 49 S26 S25 D24 D19 Married 27 yrs T over 30 S 7/12 D-bomb 9/26
