Got a terse reply from W on my brief "200 days" message, saying "I still don't know what you're talking about. Is this your idea of communication?"
She left me a voicemail too. I had made the mistake of mentioning to her that I was taking a vacation day tomorrow, and she is already asking me to use part of it to help her out. She scheduled an appointment at a portrait studio for our 2 S's to get their picture taken, but she can't make it -- so she want's me to take them instead since its my day off. She wants to work on baking Christmas cookies and then head into her office (yeah, sure -- where the OM is, no doubt.)
I don't mind extra time with my kids, but I also feel I shouldn't be enabling her to pawn her responsibilities off on me, especially when we are separated (hello?) and I am not going to be so accommodating to her needs and wants if we end in D. I feel like she needs to start recognizing and feeling the impact of these consequences.
I had to work late this evening, and so I called to talk o my kids from my office. W decided to ask again about me taking the boys to have their picture taken. W also commented, again, on my email to her, snidely saying, "I figured out what you're trying to imply -- Is this how you think you communicate?!" She went on to lambast me for poor, ineffectual communication skills. She said my obscure little remarks like that are representative of my problems and why our M failed. She said I have not shown any ability to be able to talk to her about how I am feeling or to say anything that has any depth or meaning.
Folks, at this last I nearly lost it. I was tired and irritable already from working so late, and while I got angry, I kept my cool. I told her that other than this one little email, I had been conversing with her via email and giving very heartfelt expositions for where I stand. She is just not listening. I said if anyone is failing the need for communication, she was. W has yet to reply to my prior email where I asked her to offer her thoughts, but she has not. I basically told her I was disappointed she was trying to make me out as having inadequate communication skills, when anyone seeing the essays I wrote to her would know otherwise.
I've stewed on this all evening, and will continue to do so. But I am so disgusted with W right now that I might be glad to divorce her, should it come to that.
