Hi Vee,
I heard Frosty calling my name...... First and foremost, I need to reiterate that the growth we all go through in this process makes us success stories. Sometimes, the marriage really shouldn't be "saved" and by finally having the courage to recognize that and move on and grow, you become the success story Frosty and countless others here are.

That said, ask away! (Married 17 years when bomb dropped mid-99........"reconciled" since August 2000)