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We were seeing a MC through the summer, but I didn't understand what she was trying to explain until I read DB & DR. When she would see me alone, she didn't explain the things I was doing would only drive W away. Mc would talk through most of our sessions. I'm still seeing MC for myself, will see her for the first time since surgery.

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she fell asleep At 7:30 PM and woke up at 10:30 AM the next day, 15 hours of sleep! I didn't know it at the time but over sleeping is a sign of depression also. She's been oversleeping for over a year, I withdrew because I felt ignored.


when you and W were both going to C together, How was W, with you then,? engaging or defensive, angry? Why did you two stop going? IF W went this summer would she consider going back (without judge forcing her)? Would she go if you explained your sorry you didn't listen correctly to what she was trying to say and would like to hear from her again????? any chance of this.
Mike, if you can find a C who is (as Michele says) pro marriage and goal setting, with your new DR knowledge and board skills \:\) . Bet you two could at least start to talk and make a bit of sense to each other.
If your W is still fighting Depression, get her or have her children get her to a medical dr. She needs meds bad. I fight depression a lot. Long term depression is very hard for another to understand if you have not experienced the depression. Nothing in your life is worth anything, getting through the day hurts, what you use to love to do is of no interest, just terrible. A black pit you can't find a way out of and looks hopeless in time. At one time I had a work schedule that was way off the norm of society. Weekends, late at night, etc. Which in its self means, you become isolated from rest of the world. You sleep when everyone else is up..you want breakfast when everyone else wants a full course dinner, etc. For myself long periods of living like this leads to depression in its self. Maybe your W's work schedule had a lot to do with it as well. Hope some of this helps you some how.
I'll stop rattling on so. sorry

-Love of dogs, every time I loose a dog to the bridge,part of my heart goes too. Ever time a puppy/dog comes into my life,he gives me a part of his heart. If live my life long enough, in time I'll have the heart of a puppy. -unknown (w/character limit)