I'm not turned on by my xH either and I was the LD there but I was also the HD at times (mostly the beginning) there. HD/LD is only a permanent state of affairs where there is some real physical dysfunction involved (and i don't mean just a mild physical dysfunction). I have never been stupid enough to believe that my H is LD as a permanent condition nor even that he is necessarily LD at all. He is certainly LD relative to me but that is really the least of the issue isn't it???
