Fine and dandy if she wants more kid's but miss princess will have to go out and work to support her new life. Your husband couldn't support her on his income could he?
Ya see Trying, here is where you are not looking at the big picture. She gets child support from her first husband and then also the second husband. It's an investment. enough husbands and kids she will be set.
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And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Wow lwb! This is HUGE! If I had to guess I think OW will start pursuing her H big time. Hopefully she will tell your H that she is done with him and is going to try and DB her own marriage lol!
Im praying that this might serve as a wake up call to your H. If OW H is divorcing her, your H might realize the seriousness of the situation.
Ive got my fingers crossed!
Hurtin: 32 WAW: 30 D: 8 Bomb: 10/05 Sep: 12/05 Back together 8/07 Bomb (OM): 11/07 Filed for D (me): 12/07
Completely agree with the comments above. Bet the OW will start pursuing her H. And wonder how your H will feel about that. Bet as well that she will start to make demands to your H she didn't do before and true lights will fall. Wonder again if your H will cope with that. Pressure is the end of any romance as we've learned form DB.
What I don't get is how people may feel special with someone who keeps ruining their lives by cheating. Does he think it will be different with him?
You're in my prayers too. Big tide for you to surf but I know you will be the champ. Just hold on to your board. Anyway you know your worthiness, he's about to confirm that too.
Oh I forgot to answer. NO way could H support himself and OW. No way. OW would have to stay in the school district and its not cheap around here (have no idea how *I'll* do it if we divorce). Not to mention he would have NO support from his family (emotionally speaking).
I have no idea what will happen with me, H, OW, and OW's H, but my gut tells me I am in for hard times...
I promise to try to hold on to the board during the big tides, hurt. As long as you guys will be around, I'm good.
OWH will file D. OW will panic, knowing that she can't have her husband and yours. And she will be forced to choose. My guess is that she will choose her own husband over yours. Your husband, feeling scorned, will be hurt and angry with her. Her husband, after she unsuccessfully pursues him, will toss her out on her ear. She will be alone. And your husband will also be alone, having burned the bridge to OW with angry words after she dumped him.
After that, my crystal ball gets a little foggy...
We will always be here for you. So put on your long johns and go for the waves, girl.
You know what's worst than a man having a paycheck that is less than his wife? Being pressured for not providing enough as if they are an ATM. He is so luck to have you.
Promise to invite you all to surf the true fun big waves down here and have a drink on the beach sometime. The first round is on me. Water can be at 81F.
LWB, About 2 years ago my friend's H was having an affair with a married man. The friend's H was horrible to her. He was very hateful to her always putting her down. He often told her that if the OW would divorce her H he would marry her in aheartbeat. My friend threatened to expose the affair the OW's H, but everytime she said this her H would get even meaner. Apparently the OW was scared to death she was going to do this and her H would divorce her. My friend finally got tired of it and kicked him out upon the advice of her pastor. My friend's H and she have reconciled since then. I guess the OW wasn't willing to give up her H. I guess OW didn't think my friend's H could support her and her kids from a previous marriage.
This sitch you are in reminded me of my friend's sitch. This could very well be the straw that broke the camel's back.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Yoyo, my head is spinning from that story. Not sure I got the details straight...
Lwb, ((((hugs))) BIG ((((HUGS))))
There is no way to know what will happen next. We are logical people using reason to speculate. THEY are not reasonable. Therefore, we can not accurately predict what will happen next. They may try to make it work as Romeo and Juliette with their forbidden love. Them against the world. That doesn't mean it will last, mind you.
What is important here is that you brace yourself for whatever storm comes your way. Keep your focus on you and your girls. Try and stay out of the line of fire.
It is a good sign that OW took the news badly. My STBX didn't even blink when he was served.
You know we are always here for you.
btw, everyone, lots of good stuff on here today. I have heard that I was "horrible" and that I was a "crazy manipulative bitch". I think I BECAME those things after I discovered the affair. Before that, I was a stressed out working mother of three with a newborn. I didn't get a maternity leave. My baby was born on the first (rent time). I worked through my 3 day labor and the days following. My newborn was hospitalized when she was a week old for several days. I moved into another apartment when she was a month old. It was a stressful time. Like Sue said, I knew it was TEMPORARY and I expected that my H would TALK TO ME if he needed more than he was getting. I would have done anything for him, up until about a month ago.
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Me29 H33 D9 months S2 S9(previous R) Sep 8-19-07 I file 11-5-07 H home (Retro) 2-15-08 "Today is the tomorrow of yesterday." -- S9
