Looking at your stich, I noticed your W left and came back. I can't tell you if she will come back or not, I do know that dealing with this MLCer junk is the toughest thing I had to do in my life. You will have to endure a lot of hardship with no guarantees.
Yeah, she did have me move back in for a couple months shortly after Bomb #1, but the problem was, neither one of us had done a single thing to change what we were dealing with, or changed anything about ourselves. Also, I was pretty heavily invested in blaming her for ALL the problems in our marriage, all the while reeling in heavy pain from her admission of the one-time fling. No wonder it was a short-lived reconciliation.
I have come to understand that this will be a long journey. For her, I believe she started into it at least two years ago, maybe even three years ago, after her mother's death. Where it will lead only God knows, but I do want to try, I want to keep the faith. And as most of you know, it is brutal, just f'n brutal. Eye on the prize, right?
I have also said this more than once on my thread. I am genuinely worried about her, her health, her mental well-being. She only has one relative in this country, and that is her brother that lives in Florida, and we're in California. She virtually has no friends to speak of, certainly not any that will be there to pick up the pieces when she crashes. I made a vow nearly eight years ago, the whole sickness and health thing, and I have been tested over and over with that. She has had some pretty bad health issues over the years, and I have always stood by her, or even knelt with her when she hit the ground - literally. So should I view this as more of the same (different degrees, of course)? It helps me to view her as "sick" right now, because if I thought she was normal and all was well, then this would hurt even more. Suck it up, right?
