an xh, his FF, Thanksgiving, MIL, and one psuedo-R

[Dom R]

xh also insists he knows what he is doing. He did acknowledge that he "could" get really hurt by JD (um, hello?). He made some weird statements about letting him make his mistakes, that maybe it won't blow up (okay, maybe not, but the chances are not good), and then maybe it would but he "needed" to experience that kind of pain.

Sounds like he's saying, that he's a big boy, and needs to 'face the pain'of his choices.

A corollory of that, is that if he chooses to be with her, then he doesnt get to be with you.


"help him" with that. just like he asked.


It sounds like, just like you assumed that you would "never really lose him", that he assumed that he would "never really lose YOU".

I'd say, show him that he is wrong.
Show him that this is unacceptible treatment of you, to be involved with both you, and someone else.


I think that you're being WAAY too supportive of him. you being supportive of him, sounds like that is giving him the feeling that "it's ok", and that somehow, you are a relationship coach, for HIM AND JD!