Corri drops these little gems and then flies away. Myabe if I click my red shoes 3x she'll reappear in that bubble tto she some light here.
FWIW, I don't buy into the whole HD/LD thing either. There's always something else going on, whehter it's self aborption, ignorance,intimacy fears,control issues, etc.
Its what you call "seagull posting". swoop in, crap on everything, make alot of noise, and swoop off.
I don't buy the whole HD/LD thing, either, btw.
kind of off the subject, but I think this is better described not in terms of "high" and "low", but rather "stable" or "constant" vs. "variable". HDs are not necessarily "wicked horney", wanting it all day, every day. but whatever level they do require, doesn't change much based on whats going on around them. And what we often call "LD" is not always just plain low, but rather, it seems to come and go, and be very much influenced by external circumstances.
HDs are not necessarily "wicked horney", wanting it all day, every day. but whatever level they do require, doesn't change much based on whats going on around them. And what we often call "LD" is not always just plain low, but rather, it seems to come and go, and be very much influenced by external circumstances.
I'd agree with Cac here on this one regarding HD/LD. I might call HDs more 'inner' focused and LDs more 'outer' focused in terms of what influences a person's sex drive... the 'state' of the R seems to have very little influence on the SD of people we call HD.
But personally... I think it ALL has more to do with 'degree of respect'(for other AND self) than anything else. Demonstrative respect, to me, is honesty and trust. (for other AND self).
I might call HDs more 'inner' focused and LDs more 'outer' focused in terms of what influences a person's sex drive... the 'state' of the R seems to have very little influence on the SD of people we call HD.
Yeah, it's amazing how the sex drive of the people formerly-known-as-LD improves when the 'state' of the relationship becomes one in which the spouse formerly-known-as-HD is someone who no longer lives with you and suddenly looks really hot when you run into her in the grocery store or hear about her new BF.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
I think I come very close to meeting this crieria. I don't know how much desire he has but it isn't for me. I do know that he loves me, values me etc... It IS NOT acceptable but change within this marriage would require HIM to think it is uncceptable. He wins because (to me) divorce is more unnacceptable still. So, he gets to "love" me HIS way and my sexual needs don't see the light of day. - Karen
((((((( Karen ))))))) {as IC drops his head, turns and walks away }
How do you guys stop yourselves from taking the things on this board TOO personal? Or am I just not in a good way right now?
I'm sure that's true. I'm definitely not turned on by me xH either. I'm turned on by myself and I no longer choose to share my sexuality with my xH because he is a PAL. I am still a woman who is easily aroused and fluidly sexual but I more fully own my own sexuality. IMO, both HD and LD are conditions caused by lack of sexual ownership. It's not that it's all relative. It's just that it depends on your perspective.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
NOP how about the connections, and research behind your question?
If I switch genders in your question, I see this is what some H are living, an almost sexless or certainally almost desireless M.
The question is does the man stay because there is love in the M but no/little desire?
Lou
A related question - would these affection-starved men (for I haven't heard of a sex-starved spouse that regularly gets lovingly touched or embraced by his partner) be noticeably less reluctant to move on if they could take their children with them?
It's unfortunate that (a) women are turned on by dominant men while (b) men are less apt to act that way around someone who can take his children away any time she feels like it.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
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