Maybe not too complicated to understand

[Michael Mc C]

So I've been distant from my wife these past couple of days. Today I broke down a little and asked her what he was risking for this crap they're doing. She said he's risking the same as she is. He has a family, a job, and... I guess nothing else. I don't know for sure what his plans are but his estranged wife has his kid most of the time.

I asked if she was willing to move down there.

"No, he already knows that."

"So in order for this to go anywhere, he'd have to move up here?"

"Yes. It's his choice."

Okay, so I guess my wife throws away everything she has just so she can go "meet" him. He gets what he wants that weekend and she comes back 'home' to the aftermath. If he then decides that she's not worth the effort of moving up here, he has lost NOTHING.

He won't leave his kid, from what I've heard and I can't imagine him packing up his estranged wife and bringing her up here so they can remain a close broken family.

From what I've heard about his wife, she would refuse to move just to spite him anyway - you go girl!

No effort put in by him. No real stakes in the game. They could continue this long distance thing for months, maybe even years. I'm sure at this point she's thinking that's a feasible plan. Who knows, maybe it will work out for them. This is true love after all. I'm sure they complete each other. <queue the 'bitter' music>

Call me stupid but where's that logical, sensible woman I married and had children with?

One more thing I've been thinking about. I would love to find OM's home phone number and call to let his MOTHER (he's 28-ish) know that the woman he's bringing home next week is a married 37 year old with 3 children.