UGH.. so.. W finally tracked me down. She attacked me. I'm being a crappy friend.. So much went on during that call. She still blames me for this whole thing. She's pissed I'm cutting her off. She still expects me to be friends.. best friends.
She said I ruined any chance for her to trust anyone.. WTF? She said she deserves to be treated with the utmost respect and put on a pedestal.
She still takes no ownership in this whole thing.
Conversations like this will never get us back together. I don't know how to talk with her.. she hears what she wants to hear.
I guess we are truly over.. Oh well.. it is what it is. Needs to happen one way or the other.
I finally told her what D5 had been saying all week.. evidently D5 said in front of MIL that she loves OM and she hopes him and mommy get married someday. MIL said maybe someday, but not now.
Also.. for whatever reason, she was trying to funnel me through OM to talk to my D's. I was originally supposed to talk to them at 6. She asked that I call at 7 because the girls were "crazy". I didn't like that at all.. so I just called and talked to them.
You know.. I'm sure one day I'll look back on this whole ride and thank god it's over.. one way or the other. Right now.. I could sleep.. for several years. Just get me somewhere else.
No reaction.. I just said "Well.. I'm just telling you what D5 said"
Poor D5.. she's a yoyo in all this and doesn't even realize it. She's torn between her dad and her mom's happiness. Sad thing is.. mom will never be happy.
She keeps hammering this respect thing.. and to be loved the way it should be.
She's living in a dreamworld. She claims that OM is doing that for her.. well... that bubble bursts sweetheart. Too bad I'll be gone when that one does.
Geez Jar, I'm really sorry that today has turned out to be a crapper.
It's incredible that she thinks you would want to be best friends with someone who betrays you, lies to you and uses you. Apparently, she is sooo wonderful that all that other stuff shouldn't matter.
Perhaps your best revenge against OM would be for her to marry him. Seriously though, she is reacting to your change in behavior. She is afraid of the change and is trying to counteract it.
Keep being the responsible, consistent, positive force in your Ds' lives. They are going to need it.
Luckily.. I'm heading over to a friends house to have dinner and watch a movie.
I just don't know what to say anymore. She's sooo blind. Why can't they see what we see?
That's all she did on the phone is justify herself "I'm a good person.. I'm not doing anything wrong.. OM's kids and our kids were friends before.. no big deal"
OW's mother met H at bars with OW. Yep. And she covered for OW all summer when her and my H were together. OW's parents have an odd history to say the least...they are divorced, both remarried, but cheat on their spouses with each other!!! H has also met her father. I found this all out today. Oddly, it doesn't bother me.
I can understand a parent 'siding' with their own child, but I would hope I could say to my cheating daughter that she deserves to be happy, but this isn't the morally correct way to do it....
About your day jar...keep in mind, she is not talking about the letter, but actually reacting to it. That's what is happening. Please remember that she doesn't mean half the stuff, even if she thinks she believes it. I am sorry about your D5 though...so innocent and precious...how dare your W take that from her.
Seriously though, she is reacting to your change in behavior. She is afraid of the change and is trying to counteract it.