I guess the way I see it is if I were you, I would go ahead and wear the ring...it isn't a tit for tat kind of thing, you are married, you feel married, you want to be married, so wear your ring.
on the other hand, if a new ring is that important to her, I'd probably be out shopping, too. that seems like a win-win situation for you...she'll wear a ring, and she won't have a bad association with it like she apparently does with her original band.
don't get me wrong, I do understand feeling foolish wearing it when she doesn't. my h took his off and I was fine wearing mine for a long time...I felt like it was symbolic of me wanting to still be married. but when I realized he didn't want to be married to me any longer, that he was gone and most likely not coming back, in fact was living with ow, well, then yeah, I felt foolish and took them off. I miss them. yes, I know I could still wear them, we are still married even if he is gone. but the meaning behind them is gone. for you, it seems like you are still married and both of you are trying. and it seem like its a strong symbol to your w that you wear one...my h wasn't bothered at all when I took mine off, your w is. big difference.
good luck with whatever you decide!
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