ok, sweetie, you need to calm down. Yes, you are having that sick, panicky feeling b/c you have a baby! and your H is acting like a dumba$$, however comma \:\) you need to get to that *happy* place called detach, detach, detach!!! Yes, easier said than done, but you need to somehow get to the point where you KNOW you will be ok w/ or w/o him.

If he is still talking to or whatever w/ OW, you don't need that.

I know it's easier said than done, but until you start living life for YOU and the kids, you are going to be living & doing everything to get H back. I know it's not easy not to dwell on the sitch constantly, but you need to figure out how you can get beyond that.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10