H never came back from Iraq

[MichelleLT]

re: listening to H talk about OW - it helped that I was working on being drunk as well. However, despite his claims that I don't listen to him and he can't talk to me, we have never hidden our past relationships and I have never been a jealous person. Other than H, people tell me I am a wonderful, non-judgmental listener. It is definitely harder with him because of the emotional issues, but I figure since he's only barely letting me be his friend, I have to try and maintain that.

I moved out because our lease was up and we had to move by August 2nd anyways. We were going to move to Davis together to he could be closer to school and not have a long commute (since his deployment he has found driving extremely stressful and I would describe him as an extremely aggressive and unpredictable driver). Plus most of our friends live in Davis.

So, when he asked for a separation, I moved back home for a month and we broke the lease we had signed together.

Plus I would come home from work to see that she had been there and would flip out (he was only working about 15-20 hours a week even up until he lost his job) and she has never had a job in her life so far as I can tell so they both had WAY too much free time. Oh, and he couldn't be over at her place because she lived with four other girls, including her sister, who all knew H was married and thought it was strange that they hung out and studied together etc.

I am on good terms with most of his family and friends. When I found out his sister knew about the affair I kind of flipped out at her briefly. But she flat-out told me that she would never tattle on her brother, plus she only knew for a couple days and didn't have time to figure out how to handle it. Then she told me him being an a$$ doesn't change anything with us and I'll always be family as far as she was concerned. Having siblings myself, I understood her point and had to agree with her. I also still talk to my MIL regularly.

Ironically, I am on far better terms with everyone than he is, which is yet another thing he is mad at me about. A few of them have asked H about counseling and have also gotten told off. So no one is bringing it up anymore out of fear that he will stop talking to them.

As for OW, my friends and I actually have bets going for how long they will last and who will break it off. A large number of them predict things will blow-up in the next month because she will cheat on him. Considering before they "committed" to each other and he told me he couldn't sleep with me anymore she was also sleeping with another guy...not exactly model behavior.