Reached a breaking point with WAH-MLCer. Told him last night he had to make a decision to either be a part of this family or not. If he was still seeing friend/OW then he need to leave this family.
All he kept repeating was; "Thats not the decision."
WTF?
Plus, he had a bad day and was not going to the church inquires class, he doesn't believe in church, doesn't care about child's future education, blah blah blah.
He commented that his personal life is his and not by business, that I have not supported him and hence I am not in the loop.
I replied -
1st I was going to the class, because regardless of my belief, our child's future education is more important, even more imporant than us.
2nd, I have supported him, but he doesnn't have the right to choose who his child can see and visit that are his family. It will be child's choice as child ages.
3rd, I have never been in his inner circle, friends have always come first, he has never let anyone in, even his prior GF before me had told him that.
WAH-MLCer replied that he did let someone in - meaning the friend/OW. What I know, that he doesn't see, is that she was using him and what feelings he had were due to his MLC being the catalyst.
Either way, it is another day and child is priority.
Same old stupid issues and arguements...
Must detach and rise above his MLC.
MariS
"Going for the Gold & not the Booby prize"
Become the change you want to see.....
Me - 37 WAH - 35 child - 2yrs Separated - August '06 Married - 10yrs, Together 18 Not feeling WAH's internal struggle - Feb '08
