I would agree with the identity thing, women who have lost lots of weight often still see the fat lady in the mirror and have a difficult time when positive comments are thrown their way all the time about how good they look. This is probably very difficult for her to deal with. Are there any good books out there on this subject? I'm sure there are.
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