she just told me that she is with someone elseHELP

[mwel]

Something else I thought of. You said you are reading tons of books. Are they all relationship books?
If so, couple of things. I'd read "Love must be tough". It's a good read and you'll probably find some inspiration in there.

Yes all of them are books on M and R, affairs, sex, communication, dating and a few on divorce. I will have to look into that book.

2. Take a break!! You are probably in sensory overload. I speak from experience on this. I have purchased no less than 7 books over the last 2 months. 6 of which are R/M books. I got bits and pieces, but my brain was saturated.

Maybe I am over doing it, but I am committed to read everything I can, get as much advise and techniques that I can get and not giving up without a fight, even thought the fight is over and she has walked out of the ring.

It also makes you feel worse while reading these things and not being able to employ the techniques. Some may disagree.. but may be time to get a personal book.

Again you’re right, I try to employ them on friends and family when I see them but I would love to be able to try them with my W.
What do you mean personal book?

I've got one called "Shut up, stop whining and get a life" from Larry Winget. Pretty cool.. one of those "what do you want" books. I know.. the quick answer is "My wife!!". That's an unrealistic goal at this point. You can't make her come back (if you did.. it's called kidnapping!!) so take advantage of the situation. Better yourself! That's the only way you can move on. Get your confidence back, get yourself back.

I will look into this book as well. I do want my W and right now it is an unrealistic goal but maybe it can still be a long term goal..?? I know I cant make her come back, I would if I could. I’m just alone and I do not know how to deal with that feeling, it’s like I’m empty inside. I know that I need to get my confidence back and take this time to better myself; I just don’t know how to take advantage of the situation when I feel this way. I always thought that I could just move on if she ever left me, now I’m finding that I can not move on so easily.