not a peep

[Trixi]

I have attemped to dialogue with him regarding what a good marriage looks like. And, I have even said to him that I believe we both want the same result but that we can't seem to agree on how to get there. He agreed that that was probably true..but...

We did go to the MB weekend; and he agrees in the principles- BUT he doesn't want to actually DO them principles. He doesn't "feel" like it. He doesn't know that he wants to be married-to anyone.

Honestly, I think that he is quite enjoying his 'single life'. And, unfortunately, I let him live a quasi single life for many years. I don't think that he wants to BE married. Well, in fact, on Tuesday one of the things he said was "Well, now I'm an adult and I don't have any kids to be responsible for. I'm making good money. This is the time in my life where I can do what *I* want."

He is not in a place where we can actually talk about this. He can agree that we have a good foundation for a great marriage- but he isn't into putting the effort in. (paraphrasing what he said on Tuesday.)

I agree that he might have even less of an idea of what a good marriage looks like--but that doesn't stop him from thinking that we have "already tried" and that "we can't change the past".

Believe me, I would be THRILLED if he was open to discussing what a good marriage looked like and we could negotiate a solution we both were happy with. But he is talking about moving out of state for goodness sake.