I think I come very close to meeting this crieria. I don't know how much desire he has but it isn't for me. I do know that he loves me, values me etc... It IS NOT acceptable but change within this marriage would require HIM to think it is uncceptable. He wins because (to me) divorce is more unnacceptable still. So, he gets to "love" me HIS way and my sexual needs don't see the light of day.
Could I find this absolute lack of desire more acceptable if there was a "reason" like having little to no testosterone for some medical reason? I guess but then what would be acceptable in a loving M would be to work around this issue to meet the other's needs.
