IC, You are the embodiment of spirit, and I really needed to hear those words today.

Well, I don't know about all that, but thank you. As for any needed pick-me-ups...anytime! I've never used the PM option on these boards but hey, Miss IC and myself are just a PM or email away....if nothing else, we're usually good for a laugh or two \:D

I have said this to Sandi about her H, but it is true of me as well: it is fear that holds me back.

I know, I read it over on Sandi's thread. As for the fear, I can understand that....to a point. You have some type of fear from the past that you're allowing it to hold you back. I know this is easier said than done, as I've got some problems of my own that I need to exorcize \:\/ , but instead of allowing that fear to hold us back...how can we turn that fear around and use it on itself? I could be wrong, but I feel you're afraid of the past and what happened, afraid it could happen again....walking on eggshells out of fear of the past. Well fck.... that just sucks ! .... I mean, what the hell are eggshells doing on the floor anyways ! Why can't we find away of sweeping them under the rug and proceed with being our confident selves? {Miss IC...don't look under our rugs...ummm...the kids did it! Yea, that's it..the kids did it}

In our fusion, we have undermined each other's confidence and esteem.

I sense that in your posts but I feel you have it in you to regain that confidence and quite easily. I mean....HELLO!!! Paging Doctor RJ....Medical school?....Starting your own business venture in January?....dare I forget that almost wrestling match with Southern Girl? {I here she's pretty tough....never did really get answer on your preference - oil, mud or jello }....And Jesus ! Biggest one of all - you became a mother! Kid, you might not see it, but you're oozing with confidence....now just need to find a way to translate that into the bedroom......or elevator

It's taking a lot of work to get back on track...it's been the typical two steps forward, one step back, one step forward, two back, well, you get the idea

I did this !! No, I ACTUALLY DID THIS....get that little HSA up from the computer and go to the center of the room you're in and ACTUALLY DO THIS!!! Did you do it? If you did it right, guess what....your in the same fcking spot that you started ! Now what happens if maybe you take a step to the side...and then start making steps. You're still in the same room (your marriage), but yet the view and the path around is a little different ;\)

I love my H and want him to be the best he can be; it kills me that this boy I met at 21, who was my friend and helped me through so much, ended up getting caught up in lies and deceit.

I didn't look back at this, but were you one of the fine folks on here that jumped all up and down Miss IC and mine's azz about this kind of thinking?

If you see him now he is so happy to have his family. Last night he surprised us by setting up the dining room for Thanksgiving, and had a Turkey meal ready with all the trimmings. Okay, it came from Boston Market, but the thought was so precious: he wanted us to have Thanksgiving at home, just the 4 of us.

Hmmmm, does he normally do this? No, you say! Hmmmm... {as IC does his Winnie the pooh imitation..."think...think...think"} Ok, I got it !...your husband kind of broke out of the...."routine" and low and behold...RJ thought it was "so precious." Imagine that ! Husband took a little side step and the view of the room became a little different \:\/

He's been playful, cute and sexy too...the whole package.

Well damn-it woman! Do you need an invitation via way of a 2 x 4? GO PLAY WITH HIM...{RJ, RJ!! let go of that...I didn't mean it that way!....Ok, so maybe I did }

Thank you, IC, for helping me make this work...

I'm not doing anything, you're doing all the work. I'm just sitting over here in the cheering section with my little beer hat on {filled with ice water per Doc RJ's orders \:\/ } trying to get "the wave" started \:\)

"If you can't lick em, lick em" - Ted Nugent