With MLC Women - Do they come back????

[Jack_Three_Beans]

DNQ,

My wife had affair, spent very little time at home, started living with friend like a hotel overnight bag. Went on 2 month absence from work on vacation with OM. I kicked her out of the house during that time took half the money in our account and sought out a shark of a lawyer.

She came back we tried working on it. She got an apartment a block away. She kept seeing OM. I gave her a deadline to end it, she was incapable, let me tell you how suck it is to see the OMs car outside there everynight, even the nights she had our 2 boys.

I told her it was over, the night I went there and interupted them in bed.

I kept emails and phone calls to nothing but our boys or our combined bills. Anytime she tried to engage in small talk or ask how I was doing, I would say, "So we are done talking then?"

2 months later she asked for one last chance. And in order to protect myself I told here exactly what this last chance would entail on her part.

That was last Sept. Since Jan 07 we have been doing very well, every day and month since then seems to be better. She moved back in Aug 07.

She is still in MLC, of that I am certain, but not the throes of it. We are rebuilding our relationship.

If you know a desired result will happen if you just wait long enough, that takes no courage, that takes no faith, that means nothing, it is simply suffering through until then.

Deciding to be married, waiting and not knowing how it turns out, even in the face of abysmal percentages...that takes courage. For as long as you can handle it, without living like the MLCer because they are doing it.

You are still dancing to other people, you do things to show up your wife, or because its ok because she did them first. You aren't planning on standing because not many wives come back compared to husbands...

Be a man, choose a path and stick to it.
I resent you because you talk about wanting to be married to your wife, but your out fuckin other people. You allow yourself to be tempted and ask what is wrong with that? More importantly you are either totally naive or totally disruptive by telling us here and getting indignant in the process. "Hey Adam you really should try this apple."

As for being friends with a person you have slept with, how realistic is that? It almost never is, one person will almost always still want that relationship.

Your 40 years old and virile...I get that. You aren't the only guy here with testosterone coursing through their system.

DNQ be married or be 'not married' but don't be a hypocrite. Don't say one thing and do another.

To answer our question to me from the other thread:

You would have to really hate someone to leave them in limbo on purpose. Its like the joke how do you keep a turkey in suspense?
If it is malicious then you do it on purpose knowing how disruptive it is and a game.
But I think (not a professional) that with MLC it is because they are are too selfish, too cowardly or they really do not have a f-ing clue how difficult it is for the LBS.