I am sorry but couldn't help LO about the blackmail... Guess that's a perfect analogy. They blackmail themselves not to get to the real roots of the problems.
C also said sometime that people that get in a relationship with a committed person have underlying issues as well. None that has true love is selfish, you want the other one to be happy.
I think, don't want to judge, but I think that if the OP would has true love OP would back off of the relationship as it's not making anyone truly happy. I have a friend who was an OP without knowing. When she found it out she immediately broke it off and never saw BF again.
