LadyBug, She filed around the same time as the separation started in mid oct. It usually takes 6-12mths in NH where I live. I actually am not sure if it was a good thing she called now, i'm more messed up. Before, I was clear she hated me, now she says she feels bad for the way she has treated me and stays up at night thinking of my feelings, but again, she's says she is not coming back. One side says shes "peeking" around the wall by saying she knows im trying, but the other says she's gone for good when she says stop trying and go on with your life. Chuck mentioned that she is confused at the moment and is looking for the same old me to get defensive and upset, which would help her leave. But because it didn't happen, she might me thinking about looking around the wall a little longer next time. There is also a third possibility, she found someone, but I have no evidence of that and would drive myself nutty thinking of it at this point.
