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[Trixi]

where do you get YOUR idea of what a good marriage is like?
What do you base your definition of marriage on?

Hmmm..well certainly not from my parents. I guess my idea of what a good marriage is from wishful thinking. But seriously, my grandparents have a good marriage-but I don't really get to see the inner-workings, so I can just guess why it works. MB website has some great ideas regarding POJA, etc. In fact, my ideas on what makes a good marriage are based a lot on what I have read and what I think is possible if two people negotiate a life they both love.

I also took seriously my vows that we wrote together.

I saw a sign for a class on "Dynamic Marriage" on the side of a church and I said to myself "THAT'S what I want!"

But to answer your question as far as the source of my core values regarding marriage--I only have half guesses based on seeing my friends' "normal" parents growing up. I don't know- does that answer the question?

I don't really see what boundaries you HAVE with him though -

In the very beginning when he first moved out I told him that once he went out that door getting back in would be much harder. Initially I did try to get him to take me on dates/court me but then I let my guard down. When he would start to miss me, I should have kept him at bay longer instead of letting him back in and comforting him.