I wouldn't ask her to go shopping with you for the kids. That might make her feel pressured because it's the "right" thing to do. I would however ask her what she wants to get the kids for Christmas if you're still doing a joint gift and offer to go pick it up yourself. That way she doesn't have to make any decisions to spend time with you right now, and you're not asking her to.
You did an awesome thing by telling her that you are moving on. That alone is going to make her do some thinking.

Fish said the ice is starting to melt, and it is some, but it's a very slow trickle, and is going to take time.

Has she filed divorce papers yet?

Last edited by ms ladybug; 11/29/07 06:11 PM.
Me 36
Husband 35
D5
S2
separated:
10/29/07-present
Served divorce papers 1/22/09
"When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."