Mojo Anyway, my general prescription would be that you need to stop over-pampering BB's bunny and you need to stop caging her non-sexual monkey. Yes, sounds something like what BB wants.
You will probably never become an impulsive character yourself Right again Mojo. I have been looking for and at a few Dodge Caravan’s with a 4-cylinder engine and 5-speed transmission for 3 years. I finally found one I feel is worth buying. Only $500. It is a 1990 with 150K miles and in good condition. I would rather have a 1994/95 with two air bags in case I was in a collision, but maybe I will find one later.
Two years ago I found one that was almost double the wholesale value at the time on a car lot that sells cars to people with poor credit (not me). I wanted to pay cash but they wanted me to make payments. I made several reasonable offers over a time period of 10 months but they kept upping the total sale price.
A side of me not being impulsive, also keeps me in the M, so not being impulsive has it up's and down's.
Here is your contribution to the problem. Here are my contributions over the years: 1. I should have had better jobs and not relied on doing more work to compensate. 2. I was uneducated about female sexuality and what women like. I had too much schooling on what not to do or supposedly what women didn’t like. 3. I thought I had to take it slow, not ask for anything but vanilla sex or I would offend BB. 4. I thought working hard and long hours would show BB that I am a good guy and willing to do what it takes to keep a family moving toward a better life. When I compared my M life to what I had as a kid, I was more than on track. The problem was I got caught up in doing, working, providing, but not sharing and bonding as a family unit. I didn’t give BB enough of me/my time because it took a lot of time to maintain what we had. 5. Now that I have had the Internet, I see what I could have done different sexually, and we should have spent more time, one on one, together. 6. I had a hottie I let cool off because I was working, and not fanning the flames. I thought that was the W’s job.
She was probably able/willing to do this because she was raised in a culture that doesn't value female sexuality on it's own, she valued her relationship with you and didn't want to feel resentful and she was old enough that her monthly burst of testosterone wasn't strong enough to kick the dopamine back into that channel. BB’s version, “I am too old and my body doesn’t work like it used to.”
I have to think about two chemicals Mojo, the testosterone and the dopamine. I usually only considered the T.
Somebody has to be the monkey who is not afraid to play with fire. I take that, as do several things differently. If it doesn’t work, be prepared for a few burns/cat bites.
I can do that Mojo
Impulsiveness when viewed through a positive filter is the playful spirit that messes things up a bit and thereby delays the heat-death of the universe that will occur when everything is perfectly ordered. So, predictability kills the dopamine that is there.
