Well, like I said, as far as "all the questions" go, what I found was that if I waited awhile, I actually figured out that I may not even want to ask a specific question or even want to know what the answer was/is. There were certain things I decided I didn't even want to know. It took a long time before I felt comfortable talking to him about anything that had happened and just kept acting "as if" nothing had even happened. Then, slowly I felt a bit more confident that things were really going to be ok.
Everyone talks about the 48 hour rule: if you think you want to bring something up or talk about a specific issue or something, wait 48 hours before you do so that (1) you will know if it is really that important and (2) you have time to figure out in your mind how best to bring it up and word it.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
