Sounds like a sensible choice, Trixi.

as for my question:

my question was, to restate it a little:

where do you get YOUR idea of what a good marriage is like?
What do you base your definition of marriage on?

My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle