OT - thanks for the perspective, I appreciate it. That's kind of where my mind was at too after processing and thinking about what everyone's posted. H just isn't there right now... may or may not be later, but he isn't right now.

I'm definitely not wanting anything to be drama right now - the room, the holidays, any of it. I think I have FINALLY stopped looking for the magic "thing" that will change his mind.

Thanks again. And yep, planning for a fantastic weekend!!

Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7
Bomb 1 10/07/06
Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15
Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07
Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate
2/08 slowly improving
7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!)
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