WAW staying, I'm leaving to give her space..

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Everyone,

Last night was a little better, no arguments, some small talk. No rings on W. I DB'd hard. Even though I didn't come home with signed apt lease, she never started fighting about it.

This morning before C, wife was still cold and angry. W said that I 'had her over a barrel' so she had no choice but to go to C with me. I ignored this for the most part, but validated that I was pressuring her too much lately and I'm over that now. She felt very pressured about C, she wasn't expecting it to go well. I stated I understood how it may seem that way to her but I was only trying to do the right thing and how it may help her, I thanked her for going anyway and validated that she didn't HAVE to and it was her choice to go.

W stated she felt very little hope of working out R and M. I asked what incentive do I have to move out if you are just going to file for D? She said there was a sliver of a chance that if I move out that her feelings would change in time but she didn't see any other hope.

New C was great. By the end of session, everyone agreed that I move out ASAP, C said it was the best idea considering out sitch. W said she will hold off on any sudden moves toward D and would hold off on dating for a couple of months. Found out co-workers are pressuring her to go dating but she doesn't want to. Of course they do, they know nothing about me except the negative stuff and have never met me. Honestly, it went very well. W stated she was happy we went to new C. She was so relieved that she felt guilty. Everyone agreed to give the M a chance, but even if I do everything 100% right it may still not work out. I stated that all I need is time to show that I am genuine. I would hate to throw 16 years away if we didn't have to. If we could resolve our problems, there is a potential for both of us to live a very, very happy life together and it hasn't been that way up to this point. I cannot reiterate how good the new C was!

Holding off on any more C decisions for a week or two. C was so good that she gave the W the choice to come to C when she felt comfortable with it, and approached it in such a way that I think C convinced my W that she NEEDS MC regardless of whether she wants it to save our M or not.

Now, the DB really begins...I move out next week. I got time now to do what I have to do. I feel a little better