HELP! Can't take the way H talks to me!!

[not an ex yet]

I read through most of the resources at the top of this forum and have to say that the descriptions fit my H to a T!!!!

My H is a bit younger than the "typical" (if there is such a thing) MLCer, so some of the appearance changes don't fit him, but everything else is exactly on the spot!

On the age thing, I feel like he is trying to go back and live the college years that most people experience. When I met him, I had just graduated college and he (being a couple years younger than myself) was still living at home and working but never went to college. He was 20 and I was 23. Our relationship moved very quickly and within a year we were living together and I got pregnant (not planned!).

At that time he seemed so mature for his age. He was so excited and convinced ME that we could do this and be a family and it was going to be wonderful...and it was, up until the last year.

We, or I guess mostly HE, has alot of friends in the 23-26 age range who are still in school, single, don't have to work much, and still party all the time. I have been there, done that. I think he thinks he missed out on all that and sees it as MY fault...so here we are.

Didn't have any contact with him yesterday except for a very short phone call. I called him to see if he was picking up the kids from school since Wed. are usually his evenings with the kids. He hasn't done it for the last few weeks b/c of a work deadline. The project is finished so I thought he would go back to his Mon. and Wed. I called him on my way to their school and he said he had a meeting that night so he couldn't. I asked him if he planned on telling me and he said, "I just did!" I said, "OK that is all I needed, bye." Short and sweet. I wish I hadn't asked him if he planned to tell me, but oh well. He makes it impossible for me to make plans b/c he is so unreliable and is too stubborn to let me know anything in advance! GRRRR.