It isn't a pain in the A$$, that is what we are here for. We try to help each other I can't say if we give advise that we would always be right, and everyone has a different OP but we can tell you what won't work. We have BTDT and through reading DR have learned a lot.
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez