I was hoping to get some advice from you. My situation is much the same, as is what your H is saying is what my W is now saying and how you feel a few weeks ago seems to echo me right now. I never saw it coming, W walked and that was in June. After a heated argument in Sept, she filed. Last Monday we had our temporary hearing. She came out horrible in court, and basically gets nothing from me, except a small amount of child support.
Well the Sunday prior to the hearing she asked me to her place to discuss terms. I was all business. As I started talking on the first point she just broke down, started crying. Said she wants to come home, she had an affair, goes on and on for hours. That night she tells her sister (also her bff) that we are going to work it out, and gets the reply, do you know how much mom has spent on attorney's fees for this? She gets nerveous and says she needs to think.
Next day I show at the hearing and expect her to dismiss the case. She meets me there with her sister and they say hi, and she gives me the look like it's all taken care of. Well apparently not, she goes through with it and the whole time is trying to not cry. Then she waits for me after in the lobby of the courthouse. She tries to talk but can't. She calls later on her way home and says nothing. Finally that night she calls again and says her sister and mother pushed it and she feels horrible because she has trumped up lies about me to them so not to make her affair look so bad and now she has lost her H.
Well she has called every day this week, talks to me with some chit chat. Then she will say something like I wish I could come home but I can't. Or she is such a horrible person she doesn't deserve someone like me. Then last night she asked if she could read His Needs, Her Needs. This morning she invited me in to her apartment. There has been hugging and little kisses, but that is all, even some foot rubs. We haven't even been talking at our S's drop off's and pick up's for a couple of months.
I'd do anything to have her home and my family intact. However, I'm scared to death to do anything. She has crushed me so bad and I'm finally to a stable place. She keeps yo-yo'ing now, saying things, like she thinks she is sending me mixed signals, etc.
What would you suggest I do? I don't want to push, but we are now on a timeline with our divorce and it will happen if she doesn't dismiss.
