The whole "ask for what you want" thing is for couples who are still in an M R together and want it to work. I don't see that your H is there. When he comes back to the M and you are both trying to make a great R, then it is time to ask for what you want.
Think about the water cooler example. The annoying office person is finally giving you some space, leaving you alone, has quit sulking that you won't do lunch with her, etc... You become more pleasant to the annoying office person. You talk about the weather. Occassionally you say "hi" in the hallway. You stop walking the other direction when she walks in the door. Then, she confronts you in your office. Comes in and shuts the door, and starts to lay out exactly what she wants if you two are going to continue to be best friends -- regular nights out, coffee breaks together, share secrets, plan a vacation together, sharing funny emails, etc... OMG!!!! I'd say your next step would be to get a deadbolt for your office and bring your own water.
Give H a chance to work on the R, initiate improvements, say what HE wants. Leave it alone. Let him do it all for awhile so he can figure out what he wants. If he wants R talk, he can start it. If he wants to show you his cell phone history, he can print it out and hand it to you.
Don't try to make moving into the other room a huge TEST MOMENT. Don't try to use it to shock him into coming around. Don't make it a big drama. Just start sleeping in there. If he wants to know why, he can ask.
Do take plenty of pics with your new friends and leave your camera laying around. Make lots of calls to numbers he doesn't know and leave your phone around. Let him snoop if he wants.
If he wants details of your comings and goings, he can ask. If he wants time with you, he can ask for that to.
But if he asks for it, try to make him feel special in the way that he tried to make you feel special, but in a non-needy, non-let's-call-in-the-drama way. If you go out to a bar, do something silly like sneak to the bar and get a bunch of fruit and an umbrella for his drink. Don't order him the drink from your honeymoon. If you go shopping, point out the race car cuff links. Don't point out the thing that reminds you of your honeymoon. etc...
Have a fabulous weekend. Stay out late and just sneak into your room, lol.
