I"m in agony here...

[bombardier50]

Determine if the sex issue is actually a deal breaker for you. If it is, then ACT like it is. If it isn't, then stop making it out to be because all you are doing is creating strife.

You also might want to get a book called "No More Mr. Nice Guy." And do the exercises.

I need to get that book, because all SSM did for me was turn me into a pitiful "I'll try damn near everything" lump of flesh. The big thing for me is to figure out if it's a deal breaker. She keeps complaining about how her stressful job is wrecking her. She'll be quitting her job in the next couple of months or so. I wonder if her drive will return. I wonder if I have the patience to wait...