Oh and by the way, the ones that read my thread and know about the 'parkers' I see at night on the way home from work....they've been back two or three times now....
Sorry it has been a rough morning for you. So glad you got to talked to the OW's husband and got things in the open. At least he's not in the dark now. Has he told you if he confronted her yet? Boy what a piece of work. 2nd affair!! Does your husband actually believe she is a wonderful person. You think he would have enough common sense to know if she did this to her husband once already, then what makes him any different!
Damn, I'm not sure I can handle one. This poor guy. Good job again LWB.
MCC, I have learned the I can never say what I would do if something happened until it happened but....... I think the second time would be easyier to show her where the door is.
I may be wrong, ask my wife she is alway right Husband
It is so true that you never thought what you would do in a particular situation. How many of us thought we would fight so hard to keep our marriages together even though we have suffered the ultimate betrayal?
I used to think it was crazy that people wanted to avenge the OP, because it was your spouse that betrayed you the most and broke the committment. But now that it has happened to me, I totally understand the hatred that is directed towards the OP. Odd that it is the spouse that has betrayed us, but we love them and would do nearly anything to have them back. We want to blame the OP when we know that the blame lies mostly with our spouses.
Yes, maybe we all had problems in our marriages, but that is never any reason to commit adultery. If you had asked me about this before all of this happened I would have probably had a much different answer.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Yoyo, I agree with you, it's so easy to wanna beat the crap out of the OP but in actuality, its the S that lied and cheated.
H4C- True, our S's are the ones that are lying & cheating, but for some of us, the OP is someone we know. That makes me feel doubly betrayed. I don't know OW very well, but in some cases, it's somone that some people have spent a lot of time with. That's where my anger for OW comes in. She's met me, she's met my D3......she knows we're not horrible people, as some of our S's make us out to be.
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ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
lwb.. I hope you flash your brights at the parkers!!!
I totally agree with the DB site. Your spot.
It's funny.. I've wanted to take it out on OP (only because I believe he is preying on her) and all the females I know want to beat my W up!! Odd I never think of it that way, but it takes 2 to tango I guess.
Oh.. and the lies!! I can't STAND the lies. I guess that's just being a jarhead.. integrity is a BIG factor with me.
Yoyo your right about how I always thought I would react if my H ever had an affair. Til you are in that situation you don't know. You are really mad at the OP and as Hurts says the blunt of blame lies with the Spouse. I always said I would throw him out and look I've tried to keep my family together. Go Figure....
almost makes me wish ow had a h that i could talk to. but then, what would I really find out...that my h is a lying cheating scumbag, and that I already know. still, glad those of you who have talked to op's spouse have had good results.
I say flash those parkers! (although with the nutcases out there these days, they could follow you and it could turn into a not-so-good thing).
let 'em suffer...it can't be too comfortable, after all
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
Here's what gets me about the OP - how can it be LOVE they are feeling for the WAS when they so clearly can see the path of destruction being left behind in the WAS's family? How is the cost to the WAS's "real" life worth their personal gain?
If they're willing to allow (and to assist) the WAS throw away all that's meaningful to them for this, how can they honestly say it's love?
Not that it matters. They are selfish and will do what they want with no regard. They make me sick by trying to convince the world that this is finally true love.
Maybe I'm just bitter.
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