Jeff isn't the WAH because he isn't married. Is that right? Or are you not legally divorced yet?
Interesting story Amy. I haven't read your thread so I didn't know that about you. Still sounds like there is a ways to go.
What I'm trying to understand is why the push for Jeff to try so hard. DBing is primarily about making improvements to yourself, for yourself, and seeing if that causes a reaction in the walk away spouse. If not, you have still gained something. So, if he maintains what he's learned in this process, he's still DBing. The only thing that is different is he isn't holding out hope that his XW will come back. Is holding out hope required to bring back your spouse? Amy, did your husband have to hold on to hope in order to get you to try again with him? You indicated he wasn't even holding out hope....he was done with you. The only thing that will truly ruin his chances of ever reconciling is if he remarries. If that happens, then apparently he found someone else worthy of his love and he isn't out anything if his XW suddenly took an interest in him. If Jeff's XW wants to try with him she has a mouth capable of saying so, and if she really wants to, she'll work to win him back, much as Amy did with her husband.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
