Yeah, I have considered that any dragging will irritate her. It definitely is not validating her feelings and can definitely be seen as controlling and pursuing. My options are to do nothing and wait for fault papers, which cannot prove, or try to come to agreement on 5D stuff. I am hopeful that it will become clear to her that we cannot decide a 5D life over a dinner and can meet several times. This will give me and her some time. But, she will also see this as dragging I suppose.
The fundamental problem with our marriage is lack of communication. When she apologizes again tonight, I will have a giant door to address it. But, it will be very difficult for me not to seem pursuing if I mention retro or anything else so we can learn to communicate even if it is for the sake of 5D. She will say we communicate just fine. She has been unhappy for a long time and couldn't tell me except the one time she asked to go to counseling when we were bickering over laundry or something. I thought it was silly to go over something simple. I certainly wasn't listening when I needed to. She didn't express it well. We both need it. Her effort was telling friends and family and trying to cope without hurting my feelings until I gave her the last straw.
I do see small positives in her lately. I think she got a taste of her life when I had 5D last and she really was lonely and didn't like it. She needs more space, time, and I say vision. The vision to see my life, 5D life, and her own life. Right now she is not looking very closely. Perhaps tonight she will look a bit more when things that are right for 5D conflict with her thoughts.
I really think she will. I cannot see how this meeting will not be a bit of paper talk, where she relents on many items, and a bit of R talk. I have to be ready for R talk. Validate, Validate, understand, shut-up, listen, and listen more. Easier to do with food in my mouth....LOL...
