I can now give space, time, and vision to wife without fear of D coming soon because she has no grounds.
This is the one thing on your list that I would not consider necessarily positive.
Something I see in Newcomers over and over is this feeling that there is a race against the clock...win your spouse back before the D papers happen. If you can drag your feet, that's even better because you'll have more time to woo them back. In some sense this is true, it does take time. But on the other hand, some of these spouse are so set on D that any stalling is seen as an attempt to be controlling. The spouse can turn more angry and vindictive the more it's dragged out. I think it's a form of pursuing to purposely drag out the D. I also wonder if they think if they are especially b@tchy if their spouse will be more likely to grant them the D without so much foot dragging. So, I know you are relieved that she can't divorce you so quickly, but don't be too surprised if it makes her angry that you won't grant her a no fault divorce.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
