He is treating you that way because of the PTSD. Have you read much about it? What they do is push everyone out of their lives and ruin relationships. I am guessing just like my H he is acting the same way towards his friends and family. You didn't do anything. Don't blame yourself. He is not himself right now and he has to work through that. This is not your fault. I know how it feels to have no control over the situation and watch him self-destruct. The self-destruction thing is part of the PTSD too.
Maybe the evaluator will make him realize that the ADs would help. You are right, they can't make him take him...but he may listen to that suggestion coming from them. My H is the same way. He hates the military but is scared to death to get out. Have you encouraged him one way or the other?
Patience is the hardest thing to have in all of this and we just want it to be over. If you read some of other peoples posts it can give you strength and let you know that you are not alone. You can't rush it. My H said he made a mistake..but I can tell he isn't completely there. I am still keeping my distance and giving him space. Plus, he is still living with OW and I am 1000 miles away.
