My W told me in July, 2005 that she wanted to separate. She left in April, 2006. In December, 2006, she told me she wanted a D. She repeated it in January, February and March, 2007.
I stood my ground all that time. I begged in the beginning, but soon realized I was making it worse by doing so. I wasn't going to challenge the divorce. I was just going to make the process take as long as legally possible. It's kind of like the peaceful protests you see on television at times. The protesters lie on the ground and passively protest. That's how I handled it.
To make a long story short, she came back in August, 2007. I won't lie to you and say it's been sunshine and rainbows. It's a long journey back just to get to where we were before the separation. But we are moving in the right direction. We celebrated our 20th anniversary in October.
I know how you handle "advice" on this board, so I try not to give it to you. But I will offer you my support. I would also recommend you look at FaithfulH as an example. His W came back to him.
There are wives who come back. I was willing to wait. But at the same time, I was willing to accept the D if it would have come to that. I just would not participate.
PoohBear
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
