Maybe I'm not getting this detachment thing right. Perhaps I do care too much. It's very hard for me to just shut out something I have cared about so much for so long. What I've have done is when the D word comes up I take the, "well if you have to go, you have your choice". But according to W, "that's not what needs to happen".
She says that she's not leaving the kids and she's not going to move them. So I guess she's stuck. Her approach is that she is trying to prove to me that I'm not really needed for this "family" to survive, she can handle it without me. However, I've let her know that I don't believe in D and that I'm not leaving. So where does that leave W? Fence-sitting.
Let's see, what words of non-DB recommendations have I received,
Tell W to leave.
Take back my _____. Quit being "whipped".
Buy her some flowers once in a while.
Buy her a massage for Christmas. (yeah, I about lost it on that one also)
Isn't it amazing that the people that we use to have a lot to do with before, who have figured out what is going on, don't socialize much with us any more. Both the guys and the girls have lost patience with W. Those who have been down the path, say, "don't do it". Those who have been M, can't figure out why. All of them are, she needs to figure this out and "get off the pot".
Positives,
W share info about activities more.
I trying to be more social with old friends. Some are starting to see the changes.
W is not trying to fill her time with "anything and everything".
PS is learning to work with what I can and don't let the rest bring me down.
I am starting to get more productive at work again.
Maybe I'm not great at dropping the rope, but at least I haven't lit it and dropped it. (There are days).
Pray, re-focus and sleep. My prescription for success.
